Do soul mates really exist? According to a new poll, 73 per cent of people believe they do – and one expert says there are 11 ways to tell whether you’ve met yours already.
London-based relationship coach Nicolas Aujula has helped guide singletons from all walks of life to build self-esteem, resolve past emotional baggage, and identify their relationship needs.
He says it’s important not to give up or settle for anything less than you deserve, and stresses that everybody has a soul mate out there somewhere.
With that in mind, Nicolas has revealed 11 simple ways to tell if your partner is The One…
As a US poll reveals more men than women believe that they are destined to find their soul mate (74 per cent compared to 71 per cent), Nicolas explains: ‘There are people you meet who, for no reason, you just share a strong connection with on a deeper level than anyone else you’ve ever known.
‘Whether you believe in a soul mate you’ve met in a past life or simply hope that there is someone out there who is meant just for you, there are some sure signs to tell if you’ve met a soul mate.’
Here the relationship coach reveals what to look out for:
AN INNER KNOWING
‘Call it ‘love at first sight’ or just a moment of intuition, a lot of people know when they’ve found ‘the one.’
‘If you feel comfortable, energised and intimate with someone even though you’ve only just met them, there’s a good chance the relationship will go the distance.’
‘Relationships often fall apart when the two people try to change each other.
‘Soul mates, however, accept one another (flaws and all) and when they step back see a partner they are very proud to be with.
‘They don’t want to change each other, so they tend to be less critical of each other, even when they disagree. They want to be the best partner possible to support the person that you are.’
BEING ON THE SAME PAGE WHEN IT MATTERS
‘Soul mates don’t agree on everything. However, when it comes to the most important things in life like your values, goals, core beliefs, and priorities, you are totally on the same page.
‘Soul mates tend to see the world through the same lens which makes their connection so much deeper because they understand one another.’
SUPPORT AND NURTURE EACH OTHER
‘Soul mates celebrate each other’s successes and help each other when the going gets tough. Soulmates are always rooting for each other and are proud to support their partner in everything they do.
‘Soul mates can help support you to great heights of personal and professional success.’
BEST FRIENDS FOREVER
‘Soulmates just ‘get’ each other. They can understand each other on a very deep level, even if they’ve only know each other for a short amount of time.
‘If you find someone who very quickly becomes your number one support, your partner-in-crime, and the first person you text when you have good or bad news, there’s a good chance that you’ve met your soulmate.’
A SHARED VISION FOR THE FUTURE
‘You should share the same key values and want the same sort of things out of life, otherwise resentment grows and the relationship begins to sour.
‘To share a life that you both love, you first have to agree on what that life will look like.’
YOU CHALLENGE EACH OTHER
‘This can be challenging, because it will mean that the two of you are often encouraging one another to move out of your comfort zones.
‘The unique combination of challenge and support provided by a soul mate is a major catalyst for personal growth—and in the future, you’re sure to be grateful to each other for all the encouragement.’
SEX IS MIND BLOWING
‘Because they have such a deep connection, sex between soulmates is destined to be unlike anything that either of them has ever experienced.
‘Soul mates’ profound love for each other combined with their ability to be honest and vulnerable creates a level of sexual chemistry that is off the charts.’
BOTH FIGHT FOR THE RELATIONSHIP
‘No matter how deep your connection, soulmates will inevitably run into bumps in the road – whether it be difficulties with family members, illnesses or financial troubles.
‘True soulmates find ways to fight together in order to make things better, because you’ll both want the relationship to survive more than you’ll want to defend your own egos.’
YOU FEEL COMFORTABLE
‘You feel so comfortable around each other from the start. Even in the emotional whirlwind of falling in love, soulmates will find that they’ve never felt more secure in opening up to someone and showing their true self.
‘Soulmates delight in each other’s little quirks and feel great empathy for each other’s flaws and vulnerability.’
YOU CAN SPEND TIME APART
‘Soul mates are able to strike the right balance between time together and time apart. They trust each other and still feel close when they’re doing separate things, rather than being consumed with jealousy or anxiety.
‘They are able to let each other do what’s best for their individual lives yet at the same time also know that you’re happiest and more fulfilled when you’re enjoying quality time as a couple.’